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PoSARC or The Partners of Sex Addicts Resource Center educates, nurtures and helps partners work with the challenges of being coupled with a sexually deceptive, chronic cheater.

Partner's Retreat in Georgia

 Hi Friends and Colleagues - 

I'm not sure if everyone saw my colleague, trauma therapist Tania Rochelle's blog post about the successful Partner's Retreat she just finished in Ohio? If you didn't catch it, click here to read what the Retreat was like for her and for the women who attended the sold-out event.

Tania's now ready to head up her next Partner's Retreat, this time in the gorgeous northern Georgia mountains. Included in this retreat will be a 60 minute follow-up session with me, Lili Bee, after the Retreat is finished, either via phone, videoconference or in person if you happen to live in NYC. I will help you integrate your learnings so you can transition back into your day-to-day life with a solidified sense of clarity about what's important to you going forward. Retreats are potent times for new truths to surface, older knowings to find a more comfortable place inside and/or to finally springboard some changes, large or small, that need to happen for your well-being. And of course, Retreats are the best at providing the in-person support specific to your own story that you can't easily find elsewhere for multiple days. I'm as honored to be part of this process for the attendees as I have been in the past ten-plus years working with partners.​
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New Healing Retreats for Partners!

Two weeks left of winter and we are bursting at the seams to unveil a brand new resource for partners that we are thrilled to share with you all!

If any of you have purchased the set of ebooks I co-wrote with my colleague, Cassie Kingan, you may recall that in ebook four, Recovering from Infidelity, we list twenty four active-healing suggestions that I personally found were the most helpful to me in the aftermath of Discovery. We also offer these recommendations to our own private coaching clients and have received positive feedback about them.

Before we tell you which of our recommendations occupies the number one position at the top of our list, it feels important to say: For me (Lili), going to a 50-minute therapy session once or twice a week just wasn't doing much to help hold me together when my world was blown to bits by the discovery of my partner's secret life.
Going home afterwards and facing my partner's moodiness, rages or stonewalling when I needed to talk, pretty effectively un-did all the calm I had just spent fifty minutes gaining.
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Welcoming Ourselves Home

Whether the betrayer is in our past or we are still wondering whether change is possible for them, this gorgeous poem written by Nobel prize- winning poet and playwright Derek Walcott (b. January 23, 1930—) feels tailor-made to give comfort to hurting partners. We offer it here to inspire you to stay the course of welcoming yourselves home.

LOVE AFTER LOVE

The time will come 

when, with elation, 

you will greet yourself arriving 

at your own door, in your own mirror,

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