Powerful Music Video About the Trap of Porn Addiction

Whenever any good news comes my way related to sex addicts recovering, I like to report it. It's hard enough getting hopeless and depressed by the amount of sexual acting out going on in the culture. That's why I'm inspired whenever I learn that thereare those addicts who want this affliction behind them, who are keenly aware of how it's damaged themselves and others.

The young artist who wrote the song in the video here, Jason Chu, is one such man. He writes candidly about first becoming hooked at 11 years old by the "angels" in lingerie store windows at the mall and then about his subsequent fall into pornography addiction.
(I know none of you know the name of the mega-chain of lingerie stores he's referring to when he mentions "angels". Nope, not a one of you.)

Here's his song, No Angels from his album Millenium.
(Please consider that this song may trigger you, so use your discretion.
And another fair warning: it does contain a one-time F-word expletive. So if you're offended by that, don't listen)
Everyone else, remember to turn up your speakers.

Jason generously agreed to an interview with me and I think you'll appreciate his honesty. Read it here:

Lili: Congratulations, Jason, on your new song and video. And thanks so much for spending time to answer some of my questions here. Our readers at PoSARC are all partners of porn/sex addicts and I'm sure many are inspired by the efforts of people like you doing the hard work of quitting their sexual addictions. We don't hear this nearly enough, so Bravo to you.
I'd love to be able to ask you a few questions here.

Jason: Absolutely! I am so glad to be of service here.

Lili: Great. Here goes:

It's really powerful that you created a video that shows a partner's pain and speaks to one of the casualties of porn use: the partners. How did you decide to focus on that aspect in your video?

Jason: We went through several concepts before settling on this. The whole song is about how porn has shifted my view of sex from "a way to show loving intimacy" into "taking something I need" - and this way we were able to convey the sometimes-unseen cost of that.

What was the journey like in order for you to stop using porn?

Jason: I have to thank my old roommate (who also worked through his own sex addiction) for giving me the language of addiction for understanding this habit, and referring me to his own therapist.
It's a real journey, and I still struggle weekly and often daily. Having close male friends around me who listen 100% non-judgmentally is huge. And meeting weekly with my therapist has brought so much self-awareness about fears I've been numbing or ignoring by self-medicating with porn.

Sometime after the brain reboots (after cessation of using porn) and the work of recovery has begun, we know that there is often a noticeable shift in the addict's values. What was that like for you, and have you learned anything valuable you'd like to share here?

Jason: I've been realizing how many elements of my lifestyle - sleeping schedule, media consumption, leisure time, even work habits - were subtly arranged around enabling my addiction: staying up late when others weren't around, watching non-porn content that was arousing and escalated into "actual" porn, etc. So it's been a whole lifestyle change: more focused, more transparent, more communal.

Any words of wisdom to our audience, many of who have been betrayed and abandoned by a sex addict? (and I believe the downhill slide all begins with porn use, as you likely know). The biggest question my readers constantly write in to me is some version of: How could he do this to me, to us, when we had everything together? That's always the million dollar question.

Jason: The scariest thing about sex addiction is, I can understand the mindset of a guy (or girl) who ditches a real relationship/marriage/partnership to run after a fantasy. Because that's what porn is - it creates expectations so unreal that a porn addict in many ways no longer understands what a real relationship takes, is, or feels like. When "love" is reduced to "having lots of sex", then what happens when you go through real difficulties, conflict, etc.?

If you knew these words and your excellent song/video would be shared with other porn addicts that see our website, what would you tell them? Any inspiration you can pass along?

Jason: You're doing the difficult and right thing - and you're not alone. Thanks for being brave, for not giving up hope, for fighting to be the best person you can be.

Lili: Amen to all that! Thank you, Jason, for being brave and not giving up hope. We know how epically difficult the journey can be, so I'm glad to know you've got good supports in place. And of course, we're all here rooting for you.

Jason: Much love. Let me know if there are ever more opportunities where I can be of any service.

Jason's website is: www.jasonchumusic.com
Lyrics (and a song download) can be found at http://grandmaster.bandcamp.com/track/no-angels.
In addition, the song is streaming on Spotify (https://play.spotify.com/track/32Nz5n3aJaadP2rysbOxGf)
and available for download on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/millennial/id816201965).

Any Comments, Praise, Encouragement or Questions, I'm sure Jason would love it. Leave them in our Comment Section below: