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By now we've all seen the newsletters, magazine articles and online blog posts with helpful suggestions on how to navigate the holidays with less stress.

In the days, weeks, even months after Discovery, I was lucky if I could drag myself the ten feet between my bed and the bathroom shower every few days. You know what I'm talking about.

I didn't want to read about how to attend maybe less holiday parties this season to keep my stress levels down? Attend a party? You mean, one in which I'd have to get out of my pajamas to attend? And leave my house? And talk to people? Oh, I don't think so.

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The Ten-Day Debate at The Economist, with Dr. Robert Jensen

The Economist magazine sponsored an online debate on the question "Can porn be good for us?" Dr. Robert Jensen argued against pornography and Cindy Gallop argued for, with guest commentaries. At the end of the 10-day debate, readers voted 81% against pornography.

(For those not familiar with Dr. Jensen, he is a long-time mentor of mine whom I had the pleasure of interviewing four years ago on the topic of pornography and again in March of this year- see Related Content, below this blog post).

In the ten-day debate over at The Economist last week, the always-brilliant and outspoken Jensen gave these as his opening remarks: 

Good News!

There is a new POSA Group that has formed in Indianapolis, Indiana! Congratulations to the woman who found a local community center that will host her new meeting. We are always thrilled to hear that local support will be available to those partners who need it to further their healing.

If you'd like more information on the logistics of that new meeting, please e-mail: posaindy@gmail.com

A POSA who herself went through hell sent us this poem yesterday and I just fell in love with it, so it's being shared with all of you.

May it help you feel the treasure that is your own big, brave, survivor heart.
~ Lili

This past week, someone sent me a recent advice column from the successful online magazine Slate. In the Sept. 16th issue, a woman who is married to a sex addict submits to their advice columnist a question all of us no doubt have struggled with. The response from the advice columnist, Dear Prudence, will leave you dumbstruck.

Here is a direct reprint of Slate's Sept. 16th Dear Prudence column so you can read it for yourself:

Congratulations to the POSA who just began a new free, POSA support meeting in the west end of the Greater Toronto Area!

In my correspondences with this partner, she was so thoughtful and kind, I knew the Toronto area POSAs would feel fortunate to get to share with her. I also know she's very committed to healing through the damages of sex addiction in her primary relationship and understands how holding the space for other POSAs to heal in community with her will be a real advantage for all.

You can learn the particulars about the Toronto meeting by e-mailing her here: torontoposa@gmail.com

If you are curious about whether meetings exist in YOUR area, please check the listings on this page:
http://www.posarc.com/resources/posa-meetings) before e-mailing us here to enquire.